The Truth About Feminism and Domestic Violence

I wish we could get our legal system to believe this!! But no, thanks to the feminists of the Duluth Model of 1981 for convincing the nation that women and children don't need husbands and fathers. "According to the Duluth Model, 'women and children are vulnerable to violence because of their UNEQUAL social, economic, and political status in society.'" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model) God already said that we're all equal, so they're renouncing God and lying to all of mankind, and also stereotyping based on gender and physical size. The way to "right" this "wrong" according to feminists, is for the woman to exercise a stronger social, economic, and political status in opposition to the man, and to teach her female children to do so as well. As always, God never enters into the mindset or ideology. A women is apt to think, "in order to right God's wrong that I'm in all ways less than my man (according to my perception), I need to stand up to him and fight him back. I can use police and lawyers and women-only social and business groups to show myself to be stronger than him. Then when I think he's learned his lesson, we'll be 'equal.' Shame on our past Christian culture, and shame on God for making that man think he was the head of anything. We'll be equal when I, and only I, think we're equal, not because God SAYS we're equal." Additionally, if a man buys into this garbage, he is likely to treat the woman not as a woman, but as his exact mirror-image equal: another man. When men lose it, they often degrade to blows with one another. And if that should happen to him with his woman, he fulfills the fears and lies of feminism that she's been looking for, and she ramps up her legal defenses and police action against him, who in turn are happy to oblige her because they believe the same thing. And the whole relationship spirals downward. The solution? Daily repentance and humbly seeking the Lord, Jesus Christ, who makes all things new, and puts things back in order! :)

Anonymous feedback:" I think you turned a really positive picture completely negative."

My response:
Sorry if it stirs up negative feelings. :( This is the trick of the devil that has almost destroyed my life and relationship with my kids. I studied this in college and have become very familiar with the feminist movement, including the satanic upper echelons. I know it sounds to some people like I hate all women because I'm an anti-feminist, but that's a simplistic view that's not even worthy of comment. This feminism ideology is not about the right to vote and earn equal pay. It's about defying God's divine order in the world, and ultimately, it's about power and control. It hurts a lot and I'd love to see society change its court system to a model that supports BOTH parents. Some states are experimenting with other models besides this one, but it hasn't happened on a grand scale yet. If women feel inferior to men, they're hanging around the wrong men, and they should get more aquainted with their true identity in Christ. The Bride of Christ, the church submits (or should submit) to Christ in everything, and whenever we do, we left feeling great about ourselves because He gave up everything for us. That's Love! In marriage we manifest that Christ-Church relationship and take on similar roles. Women love men who give their all to win their love, and men love women who honor and respect them. But woman's antipathy for man comes from the curse that God gave when man sinned in Genesis: "Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you." The original Hebrew text does not indicate a desire to be with him and love him, it's a desire to DEVOUR him. It's God's curse on woman because of the Fall, it's not a blessing. Man's curse is that all his work will be very difficult and often with little result. The redemption is found in God's grace through Christ's death on the cross for His bride, the Church. I should ask you, did you read the whole comment? And aren't you a Christian? I think you are, and you would know that the only solution to our sinful nature is Christ's sacrifical death for our sins. We can't fix ourselves even if we try. My post is law and Gospel. It's a hard lesson with an easy, wonderful answer to the problem! Ideas take about 4-5 years to become present-day reality, so in about 2017 I think we'll start seeing new models pervade family court and domestic law enforcement.

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Marriage Is the Unity of Christ And the Church

Undoubedly, the world is trying to teach us if we do not accept two men or two women as a legitimate marriage, we are bigoted, foolish, and insecure.

Marriage is much easier to understand when seen as the perfect image of Christ's marriage to His bride, the church.

God created marriage to be a mannifesation of His relationship with us. He wanted us to be one with him, just as He and the Father are one. We are one as man and woman, just as we are one with Him. The woman submits to the man as the church submits to Christ. Man lays down his life for his bride just as Christ lays down his life for the church. It's odd to think of the woman as having authority over the man, just as it is odd to think of the church as having authority over Christ.

Physically, water gives life. Dead bodies are dried up and hard. Living things have water in them, are soft and fluid. The woman's body submits to the man's body, who comes into her and gives her his fluid. She can't receive it of her own free will. Similarly, the church submits to the Living Water, which produces spiritual life within the body of the church. The church cannot save itself, or give life to itself of its own free will. It is the will of God that Salvation and new life come into us.

Every miniscule nuance that can be seen between a husband and wife can be seen in the relationship between Christ and His bride, the church.

Please give me some suggestions of peculiarities in marriage, and I'll show you how that aspect of marriage is realized spiritually between Christ and the church.

State-Sponsered Indoctrination For People Who Want Guns

"A Florida legislator wants anyone trying to buy ammunition to complete an anger management program first, in what critics say is the latest example of local lawmakers reaching for constitutionally-dubious solutions to the problem of gun violence."

Published March 06, 2013

Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2013/03/06/florida-lawmaker-wants-anger-management-courses-for-ammunition-buyers/?test=latestnews?test=latestnews#ixzz2MsrfXbAk

This is just one legislator proposing his or her ideas. Hopefully, this won't be put into law. What is really sad about this is what I discovered when going through state-sponsered anger mangement classes. These state-sponsered anger management programs are based on  Feminism, more specifically the Deluth Model, and Feminism actually yields violence.

Feminism actually tries to teach men to treat women more like men, and erase gender inequality. But if a man tries to erase gender inequality from his mind, does he see the woman as a man, or does he act more like a woman himself? Sadly, men try to accommodate for Feminism both ways. The ideology also teaches that men are inherently prone to violence against women because men are physically larger. But men often resort to violence when in conflict with another man.

God has given both genders equal rights to the Kingdom of Heaven, and gives each of them equally rewarding and fulfilling roles on earth. There are many ways that men and women can share in the same tasks here on Earth, but many ways in which they can't. Childbirth is the most ovbvious example, and leadership at church also comes to mind, according to many passages in the New Testament. I know that many Christians who also try to embrace Feminism will hate to hear that, but the Bible is very clear about male leadership at church, and we should try to understand why, not ignore it.

In my time in the anger management programs, I actually felt less sensitive and compassionate toward my wife, and more temptation to argue with her, expecially in proving her wrong. I felt that I was recently armed with valuable insight from my anger management counselor, and that my wife needed a lesson. I also remember the temptation that since I presumed she already knew this - because I had to take the class and not her - then it wouldn't be a problem to say it sternly, or with punishing words.

In the two examples that I give of gender inequality, the female example is the utmost of our carnal experience on Earth, and the male example is the utmost of our spiritual earthly experience. Both the spiritual and carnal are part of being a human being.

Lastly, I would like to add that Feminism is a wordly response to a spiritual problem. When faith weakens, the world reacts in all kinds of weird ways. They don't have direction. But God uses the shake-up to strengthen the Elect and show His glory. We know from Matthew 24 that the world is a very wicked, evil place at the end, and we are always progressing (liberal action word) toward that end. The right response is repentance, pouring out the heart, seeking the Lord's face with a humble heart. He said that he will hear from Heaven, heal us, and heal our land! There are always good blessings in store for the ones who are meek and humble in the Lord!

It's Not a Sport

They're saying that guns and bullets can now be made on 3D printers. So you can download any weapon you want off the Internet, or in a peer-to-peer network and avoid the coming Internet regulations. Evil will always find a way to eliminate that which it wants to destroy, but they can only kill the body and then do no more, and God will destroy evil on Armageddon. Boxing and Football lightened the damage done through improved technology and rules (aka regulation and law in the real world) and it works because players can be eliminated for violations that cause great damage. I knew someone whose place on a "minor-league" soccer team was to literally break the opponent's legs, because we was rich enough to afford the $1,000 penalties! But in the game of good vs. evil, both of which are much greater than us human beings, regulations and laws don't work. Only adherence to one spiritual force or the other: Good: repentance (to God), love, and mercy, or evil: ignorance (of God), selfishness, and contempt. So pick your team, and may the best God, or god, win.

The goal of evil goes back to Genesis 3. The devil tempted Eve, saying that she will be like God, and will not die. Evil wants to have everything about life, without God. That's why Christians ride on the heights of the land, whether it be in humble or rich circumstances, and non-Christians can only copy Christians to get ideas that work. And yet they don't truly work because they're not done in faith. They're trying to copy everything and have life without God. So Jesus tells us that He brings peace, but not the way the world does. Sometimes 2 people can commit the exact same action, but only 1 is acceptable to God because it was done in faith.

Is It From the Office Or the Officer?

I took an online test for narcissistic personality disorder at psychcentral.com This test doesn't seem to differentiate between a person and the offices that the person holds. One particular question asks if I deserve respect for myself, but it doesn't differentiate between me as a person and any particular office that I am holding, like husband, father, etc. I hold the offices of husband and father, handed down to me from God through marriage and through fathering a child (children, in my case)(Romans 13:1). Someone could get critical of my parenting and partnership skills, and bring up their concerns in front of my wife and/or children, whoever is on the other side of my relationship. This attacks not simply me, but my office. It could be well-received advice in a private context. But because the other end of the relationship is also present, it questions the office itself. The other person is called upon to question their own way of interacting with the office. Fortunately, I have my faith in God and trust in the Scriptures to differentiate between what is ordained by God and what could simply be a temptation for narcissistic thought.

I think that when the office isn't recognized as being from the Lord, the default is to designate the individual as the designer. With the individual as owner, and with the assumption that the individual is flawed, the office then loses its integrity.

There is still a lesson I think that we as Christians can learn from having an office questioned, even if it is misappropriated to the person instead of the office. The Lord himself does not want us doing things that leaves other Christians, particularly those weaker in faith, to suffer from our actions because they don't understand (Romans 14:13-18). That isn't a loving attitude that looks after our brother and sister. If there is ever a doubt about our actions in office, we can ask ourselves if we are being sensitive to the measures of faith of others.

Not My Will...

One psychological inventory that my therapist gave me indicated that I hold on to several irrational beliefs. One of these is that I'm stricken with stress and irritation when things don't go my way. I tend to think things like, "Why me?" "I thought I had enough to deal with!" I had to confess it to my kids as a grown-up temper tantrum. That struck a chord in the 3-yr old's mind!

Of course, the Lord never forsakes us (Hebrews 13:5), and He disciplines those He loves (Hebrews 12:6). I stop my kids when they're misbehaving, even if they're intentions are good, and I expect compliance. I should practice what I preach, as God's child. If he cares enough to not give me exactly what I want, it would be smart of me to stop my behavior and listen.

How Feminism Yields Violence, and the Blessing of Power and Control

My belief is that feminism is a cause of domestic violence because it teaches men to look at women as other men. Men learn that the similarities negate the differences. Men often get physical with other men, ultimately, to defend the Gospel. In other manifestations, their physical violence is used to defend their people from annihilation by other people - particularly the other people's men. Violence is more closely related to swift justice than to domination, as the feminists try to insist.

A counselor explained to me that feminism rose up in the legal system from the Duluth Model. The movement began when a group of feminists pleaded their cases before congress in Duluth, MN, and won the passage of new laws. Unfortunately, an article in Wikipedia on feminism reports that feminism is almost entirely based on pseudo-science .

When going through therapy, and being held up against these views, and even worse, have your actions legally defined by these views, one feels the need to speak out.

I was not surprised to meet a man who never had a problem with violence against women until he was mandated to go to one of the domestic violence classes. He told me that was when he started having problems. The reason is clear to me, as I mentioned. And the proper response is repentance to God. Repentance for not understanding our male and female difference better, not loving God more than the wife, and not lovingly using our God-given power and control to protect her from the evil one, so that the Holy Spirit can raise her up to be the woman of God she was re-created through Christ to be.

Why feminism? Our sinful nature wants to know right from from wrong, and leave God out. It's the sinful way to respond to the sinful problem of abuse while still leaving God out. Women are just as guilty as men are of trying to live life without God. Feminism makes sense, especially to women but also to men of little or no faith. It's following the voice of the stranger (John 10:5) (John 8:44), who promises enlightenment but also wants to destroy God's people and creation.

I write to other Christians about the legal and psychological systems and our faith I hope that this blog encourages you to stay active in your faith in Christ. You know the system can't destroy you, but God can use psychology to show us our sin and lovingly help us stay on the straight and narrow (Matt 7:14).

I'd also like you to consider the Lutheran Church, Missouri Synod, and our theology. It is a strong Christian organization that takes nothing out of the Bible, and can explain concepts that other theologies often leave untouched, like male headship in the family, and why Christ's body and blood are truly in the bread and wine, not merely "represented." (John 6:24-65)

Do They Understand That We Are One, Not Two?

This is a comment I left at the site: Encyclopedia of Mental Disorders, http://www.minddisorders.com/, by AdvaMeg, Inc. Addressing the need for more Spirituality in social science.

"I have been diagnosed with features of NPD. The only thing that bothers me is the lack of Spirituality in science. I love the work that they're doing, and understand that many psychologists are Christian. I think one thing that exacerbates the diagnosis of my problem to society ("Psychotherapy," 2nd par.) and clinicians is that in reality (by faith) I am one with my wife, not two anymore (Mark 10:8). Yet they continually treat me as an individual on my own. I think their view is exacerbated even further (sorry about the over-usage!) because most of my psychological systems are government-funded, not private - and privately funded - practices. They may have their own recommendations get nixed because of the funding source. So I'm trying to find treatment that doesn't turn me into an Obamite (socialist). I'm also in need of funding because my wife is an illegal alien (immigration is another one of my areas) with severe mental problems as well as me, so work has been very difficult. I'm trying to foster more communication in this area through my blog, if it would be helpful to anyone: http://mynarcissismjournal.blogspot.com"

Feeling Separate from My Narcissism in the Midst of a Crisis

I could sense my narcissism very clearly recently. My parents had to help me make a $600 car payment. I felt like I was thriving on the attention and just letting them take care of me. As the problem was wrapping up, I sensed the temptation to just relax until the next crisis. I was asking myself how much of their good graces I had used, and when the next time would be that could effectively ask for something. I also felt a sense of pride for handling my relationship with them effectively. And more recently, I feeling guilt for thinking this way, and more motivation to get myself out of this situation so I wouldn't have to ask for help again.. Perhaps in a spiritual way, this whole ordeal was good for all of us. Perhaps it was inevitable in terms of spirituality - where people are in their relationship with the Lord, and how they are living according to the measure of their own faith. I'm learning based on my faith that it is so uncomfortable putting others out like that. I am more motivated to avoid my own temptations. I am also more confident that God has given me everything I need and will sustain me and my family. I see that when I'm not relying on Him, it's so much more uncomfortable.

The Elect Cannot Be Deceived

A lot of psychology is inspired and fueled by Christians, eminating the Word of God as best as they understand it. But the Word is covered up by so many other names, like "psychology," and it's subsequent departments, organizations, and clinics. And when the Name above all names is never mentioned... I was just about to write: ...then a Christian might be duped by the plethora of information coming at them and manipulating them. But that's impossible! The elect cannot be deceived. I have been mandated to do this counseling and receive whatever labels they have come up with for me. As one of the elect, I choose to respond in a way that professes my faith, stands against what I know to be incorrect information, and unite with my brothers and sisters who are going through a similar persecution under Society's various names.

In accordance with loving my neighbor as myself, every individual I speak to should be treated as an individual, like myself, not as a drone replicated by the system. He or she is a person with a soul and conscience, regardless of the rhetoric they may dispense. However, the System, in all of its names, is an entity that cannot possibly know God. It is the sum total of human thought and spirit, neither of which can know God unless God intervenes for us - which He does so well, that He not only divides us from fellow earthlings as individuals (and unites us with Himself and other believers), but He even divides the soul from the spirit. (Hebrews 4:12)

The Axes and the Term "Disorder"

Allpsych.com has a good explanation of the axes used in the DSM, the Diagnostic Statistical Manual, where the diagnoses come from. These axes seem to identify various aspects where something could go wrong, and hence earm the term "disorder."

I want to know what's wrong with me so I never physically hurt my wife again. But I really want to know what God thinks, not so much than what the State thinks (or any part of the system or any name that tries to help others). And He shows us His Word, even through other systems. He also gives us our brothers and sisters to love within other systems and names.

My Histrionic Features

Dr. Mark Dombeck at Mentalhelp.net suggests the following symptoms for histrionic features of personality disorders, which seem to be true for me:

• Interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior
  For over a decade I used to dream so much about sex that I would hunt down possible flirtations to have something to dream about. Now it's hard to stop looking and not initiate something. It really became a source of enjoyment to the expense of real relationships.
  
• Displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
  I don't have a shallow expression - I'm rather demonstrative - but I shift rapidly as I alternate between priorities, spiritual outlooks, interpersonal understandings, and other facets of life that could all come into play in any situation.
• has a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail
  I get like this when I'm especially angry and don't care to work it out anymore.
• shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion
  I'm like this usually under three conditions - 1) angry and uncaring, as described above, 2) with my children, to try to communicate in a way they understand, and 3) when I really feel the urge to act, but then I always explain to others that I'm acting.
• considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are
  I tend and try to see more intimacy in my marriage than my wife does, and I have been hurt by my subjective opinion of her insensitivity. I'm not ready to see this as inapproriate, because a person has to has to have faith in the great oneness that God gave us with Himself and with others and try to realize that in their lives. If someone else doesn't see it, though, in love it can't be forced upon them, only encouraged in smaller bits they can understand.
  

Labels, Help Networks, Interpersonal Interactions, and True Healing

Frankly, I'm embarrassed about the labels. And to read self-help websites about this makes it sound like a rare sickness. It's easy for a "healthy" person to see the same material and think, "I'm glad I don't have that." The frustration is that one person gets the label, but each of us has issues of varying degrees. Another complication in this thinking arises when two people get together, whether or not they have accepted a label for their problem, and negatively affect each other. Each one can be embarrassed about their own faults, thinking they've lost all their progress, when it was the nuance of the other person at some particular moment that should be to blame. So there can be no maturation and healing without doing it God's way. A treatment program cannot be successful without God's Word and Sacraments because the treatments we typically use only try to replicate part of God's Word, and never give Him credit.

Spiritually, this self-help process is a way of saying to one's own social network (in all its various forms of professionalism, indifference, objectivity, comprised of doctors, psychologists, friends, strangers, books, magazines, etc.) that the person is m sorry for their wayward tendencies and are open to help. As the Lord has said in His word, "confess your sins one to another and pray for each other that you may be healed." James 5:16 So my treatment program will not be successful unless by God's grace, He blesses me with a network of Christians and time in His Word and Sacraments. In Christ, I would be able to interact with others, labeled sick or healthy, as the Great Counselor guides, and things could really and truly get better, instead of more confusing.

Adjustment Disorder with Mixed Disturbance of Emotions and Conduct Paraphilia

The DSM-IV says that adj. disorders only last a short time, usually up to 6 months. I need to understand what the sexual stressors are before I can relate to this.

paraphilia -Deviant sexual behavior, breaking societal norms.

Beliefs Inventory

To connect my self view with my beliefs and behaviors, my therapist wants me to do this Beliefs Inventory from The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook by Martha Davis, Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman, and Matthew McKay. It says that I scored more than 50% on the following logical fallacies:

1. It is an absolute necessity for an adult to have love and approval from peers, family, and friends.

4. It is horrible when people and things are not the way you would like them to be.

5. External events cause most human misery - people simply react as events trigger their emotions.

6. You should feel fear or anxiety about anything that is unknown, uncertain, or potentially dangerous.

7. It is easier to avoid than to face life's difficulties and responsibilities.

8. You need something other or stronger or greater than yourself to rely on.

Other irrational ideas not indicated in the inventory that I said I agree with:

15. When people disapprove of you, it invariably means that you are wrong or bad.

I'll need to comment on these at a later time.

Histrionic Behavior and True Reality In Emotions

Histrionic - A deliberate display of emotion for effect
http://wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn?s=histrionics

I get very demonstrative and I often do try to tailor my behavior to what I think should be the right emotional response. I also know that it's connected to my sex addiction, which often turns my affect inside-out. Often my reality situation leaves me disgruntled, bored, and impatient because it doesn't live up to the elation I could have received from the addiction.

In my faith in God and Christ, I remind myself that my body is lying to me, as one of the three sources of temptation (the other two being the devil and the World) and that reality only exists in Christ. I look around me for signs of True Life and search them thoroughly for satisfaction and positive feelings.

Thesis, Goals, and Target Audience

Thesis:
Very often, science attempts to explain and control life by shutting out Life Himself, Jesus Christ. It touches on proverbs and other truths that are actually in line with the Truth of the Word of God, but not by faith. Rather, it is by a systematic, self-absorbed process to attempt to live a life that is as long and self-fulfilling as possible. The Bible calls this "having a form of godliness, but denying its power." (2 Timothy 3:5)

I normally address my problems and issues through my faith. But since this counseling has been mandated by the State, and I don't have money to pay for a Christian counselor, I will express my opinions and understandings through this blog, by God's grace and will. This is for my own sanity as well as to lovingly share a faith-based spiritual perspective with others concerned about anti-Christian influence.

This is not to say that the State is simply evil and twisted, and trying to impose mind control. I understand and appreciate the numerous people who make up the governmental (not "govern mental") system, and their humble, loving acts to try to help others find happiness and self-control. I love each person I work with. There is a lot of truth and righteousness in many things they say, whether they know it or not. But it's also important to remember that world cannot bring us peace in any way, shape, or form. God brings us peace through Christ our Lord, paying the price for our sins in his death, and giving us eternal life, peace, and contentment.

Goals:
1. To journal about my narcissism, as diagnosed by the State of Illinois, while I work through the therapies and exercises, in accordance with my Christian faith.
2. To respond to these science-based ideas with my spirituality and faith in Jesus Christ.

Target Audience:
1. Myself, so that I can journal about my therapy
2. Others who are concerned about anti-Christian influence and the phenomenon of self-help .